‘I wish you were murdered’: some students don’t know the difference between bullying and banter

<h3>Many Australian students don’t know the difference between banter and bullying&comma; with some saying they joke about wishing their friend would &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;drown” or &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;die in a car crash”&period;<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>More than 800 Australian students aged 11-16 took part in a survey asking about experiences of peer aggression&period; Almost half &lpar;48&percnt;&rpar; said they had been harmed&comma; very harmed or extremely harmed by an act of peer aggression&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Bullying is a subset of peer aggression&period; For an act of peer aggression to be <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;aracy&period;org&period;au&sol;publications-resources&sol;command&sol;download&lowbar;file&sol;id&sol;265&sol;filename&sol;A&lowbar;Conceptual&lowbar;definition&lowbar;of&lowbar;School-Based&lowbar;Bullying&lowbar;-&lowbar;FINAL&lowbar;JUNE&lowbar;2014&period;pdf">defined as bullying<&sol;a> it must be repeated&comma; deliberately harmful and involve a power imbalance in which the victim feels powerless&period; If any of these criteria is missing&comma; it is not defined as bullying&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>But that doesn’t mean the experience isn’t harmful&period; In a lot of research on bullying&comma; young people are simply provided with the definition of bullying and then asked questions about it&period; Because most people have their own idea about what bullying is&comma; they are not likely to chang their mind in one instant after they have read the definition in a questionnaire &lpar;if they read it at all&rpar;&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Our survey asked about specific experiences of peer aggression&period; Around 30&percnt; of students thought their experience – such as being teased&comma; laughed at&comma; picked on&comma; being called names&comma; being hit&comma; kicked&comma; or treated meanly – was not harmful or was just &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;banter”&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h2>How the survey worked<&sol;h2>&NewLine;<p>In 2017&comma; 843 students from South Australia and the Northern Territory completed a questionnaire on peer aggression&period; One of the authors developed the questionnaire to distinguish harmful peer aggression from bullying and harmless banter&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Rather than being asked directly &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;were you bullied&quest;”&comma; the questions consisted of 20 items about experiences of victimisation &lpar;&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Another person&lpar;s&rpar; spread rumours &lpar;false stories&rpar; about me”&rpar; and perpetration of aggression &lpar;&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I told false stories or spread rumours about another person&lpar;s&rpar;”&rpar;&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<figure class&equals;"align-center zoomable"><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;296811&sol;original&sol;file-20191014-135495-1o1ug5t&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;1000&amp&semi;fit&equals;clip"><img src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;296811&sol;original&sol;file-20191014-135495-1o1ug5t&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;fit&equals;clip" sizes&equals;"&lpar;min-width&colon; 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https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;296811&sol;original&sol;file-20191014-135495-1o1ug5t&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;h&equals;503&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;1 754w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;296811&sol;original&sol;file-20191014-135495-1o1ug5t&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;30&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;h&equals;503&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;2 1508w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;296811&sol;original&sol;file-20191014-135495-1o1ug5t&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;15&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;h&equals;503&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;3 2262w" alt&equals;"" &sol;><&sol;a><figcaption><span class&equals;"caption">Many students thought saying mean things wasn’t harmful&period;<&sol;span> <span class&equals;"attribution"><span class&equals;"source">from shutterstock&period;com<&sol;span><&sol;span><&sol;figcaption><&sol;figure>&NewLine;<p>Students answered whether they had experienced or perpetrated the aggression in the last school term&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>If they said they had experienced aggression&comma; they were then asked to indicate&colon;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<ul>&NewLine;<li>the level of harm experienced&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;How harmful was it to you&sol;them&quest;”<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>the intent&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Did they&sol;you deliberately intend to do this&quest;”<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>the frequency&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;How often did they&sol;you do this&quest;”<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>the power imbalance&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;How powerful &lpar;important&comma; liked&comma; strong&rpar; are you compared to the person&lpar;s&rpar; concerned&quest;”<&sol;li>&NewLine;<&sol;ul>&NewLine;<p>The questionnaire allowed experiences of aggression to be classified along a spectrum&period; These ranged from no involvement and harmless participation&comma; to harming with no intention to harm others and bullying others&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>We then classified experiences that were repeated&comma; intentionally harmful and involved a power imbalance as bullying&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In our results&comma; we found&colon;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<ul>&NewLine;<li>17&percnt; had no experience of peer aggression in the last school term<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>30&period;1&percnt; experienced peer aggression but saw it as fun&comma; joking around or banter &lpar;didn’t consider it harmful&rpar;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>2&period;9&percnt; were involved &lpar;as either perpetrators or victims&rpar; in harmful joking but didn’t repeatedly intend to harm others<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>32&period;5&percnt; were victims of harmful peer aggression &lpar;and were sometimes bullied&comma; under the three criteria&rpar; and also had no intention of harming others<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>9&period;6&percnt; were victims of peer aggression and also harmed others – some of these were bullies or had been bullied &lpar;but not both&rpar;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>4&period;8&percnt; had perpetrated aggression and deliberately sought to harm&comma; but were not victims themselves – some in this group were bullies under the three criteria<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>3&percnt; were bullied and also bullied others&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<&sol;ul>&NewLine;<p>So&comma; overall&comma; around 48&percnt; of students were harmed by peer aggression&period; The proportion of victims &lpar;those who did not cause harm themselves&rpar; was almost one in three&period; Of the remainder&comma; 12&period;6&percnt; said they were harmed and also harmed others&comma; while 4&period;8&percnt; harmed others and were unharmed themselves&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h2>&OpenCurlyQuote;I wish you would die’<&sol;h2>&NewLine;<p>The questionnaire also asked students an open-ended question about student interaction in their schools&period; Some students were adamant not all aggression was harmful&period; One Year 11 boy&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;most of the time it’s a joke&comma; calm down”&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Some students provided drawings to illustrate their point&period; One Year 10 girl drew a picture titled &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Banter with friends”&period; It contained the following text&colon;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote>&NewLine;<p>&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Bullying never that scary”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Person 1&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;You’re a faggot”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Person 2&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I sure am”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>and<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote>&NewLine;<p>&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Sounds horrible but it’s funny”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Person 1&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I wish you’d drown”&semi; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I wish you’d die in a car crash”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Person 2&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I wish you’d die”&semi; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I wish you were murdered”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>While students may believe such comments aren’t harmful&comma; it is difficult to determine where the joke ends and the abuse begins&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Respondents were&comma; on average&comma; around 14 years old&period; Around half of the sample &lpar;50&period;6&percnt;&rpar; were males&comma; and three-quarters &lpar;76&period;4&percnt;&rpar; were 14 years old or younger&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>We saw differences across the age groups&period; Victimisation decreased and harmless participation increased with age&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>We <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;taylorfrancis&period;com&sol;books&sol;9780429426797">also collected data<&sol;a> with the same questionnaire in 11 other countries – Italy&comma; Spain&comma; Poland&comma; Indonesia&comma; the Philippines&comma; Greece&comma; Israel&comma; Taiwan&comma; mainland China&comma; South Korea and India&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Harmful peer aggression was greatest in India &lpar;91&period;0&percnt;&rpar; and lowest in Taiwan &lpar;12&period;8&percnt;&rpar;&period; Mainland China &lpar;47&period;0&percnt;&rpar; and Poland &lpar;41&period;7&percnt;&rpar; had figures similar to Australia&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Harmless &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;banter” was evident in other countries such as Italy &lpar;40&period;2&percnt;&rpar;&comma; Poland &lpar;35&period;0&percnt;&rpar; and mainland China &lpar;31&period;4&percnt;&rpar;&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h2>Student well-being<&sol;h2>&NewLine;<p>We also assessed respondents’ social&comma; emotional and psychological well-being&period; Questions included&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;How often did you feel happy&quest;” and &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;How often did you feel that you had experiences that challenged you to grow and become a better person&quest;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>We assessed whether the student was languishing &lpar;exhibiting low satisfaction both with general life and with their productivity and function in society&rpar;&comma; had moderate mental health&comma; or was flourishing&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Student well-being appeared to be worsening in Australia&period; More than 10&percnt; of students were &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;languishing”&period; Girls were languishing more and flourishing less than their male counterparts&period; Girls also scored lower on how often they felt good about themselves&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Schools need more assistance and support if bullying is to be seriously dealt with&period; Evidence-based anti-bullying programs should continue to be evaluated&comma; 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