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Books as a catalyst for conversation & helping children to open up

For children, talking about feelings, predicaments, and responses through the lens of a fictional protagonist becomes a non-threatening way of working through their own issues.

<p>When author Doris Brett’s daughter Amantha was about to begin kindergarten&comma; she started experiencing anxiety&period; No matter what Doris or her husband said to try and reassure their little girl&comma; Amantha would not listen&period; So Doris started telling her stories about a little girl called Annie&comma; who coincidentally happened to be heading to kindergarten and was feeling anxious about it&period; Suddenly Amantha was all ears&comma; eager to hear how Annie coped and what strategies she used&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;What had been rejected when given as &OpenCurlyQuote;advice’&comma; was totally absorbed when given in the context of a story&comma;” said Doris&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;And in fact&comma; Amantha went to kindergarten happily and used exactly the strategies that Annie had used successfully&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Doris realised that while this was an age-old technique&comma; no one had written about it and so her first book <em>Annie Stories<&sol;em>&comma; published in 1988&comma; went on to explain how to both create and use therapeutic stories to help children&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote>&NewLine;<p><strong>Doris explains&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Something that is too threatening for a child to think about directly&comma; becomes much less threatening when it is experienced by a &OpenCurlyQuote;proxy’ – a character in a story&period; It’s a wonderful way to communicate with children about difficult issues&period;”<&sol;strong><&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>Doris Brett went on to have a multi-faceted career path&comma; not only continuing as an author but also specialising as a clinical psychologist&period; Her award-winning writing crosses genres&comma; from memoir and poetry to psychology but it is only recently that she has published her debut novel for young readers&comma; <em>Philomella and the Impossible Forest&period;<&sol;em><&sol;p>&NewLine;<h4><strong>Inspiration for Philomella <&sol;strong><&sol;h4>&NewLine;<p>Doris read her way through classics such as The Lion&comma; The Witch and The Wardrobe&comma; and Harry Potter with her granddaughter&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Because it was a read-aloud experience&comma; it was very easy to track when my granddaughter was fascinated and when she was losing interest&comma;” Doris explains&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;She also liked magic and adventure&period; We’d read a number of books and I was having trouble finding new ones that met the specifications&comma; so I decided to write one myself&comma; which was how <em>Philomella and the Impossible Forest<&sol;em> came about&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><strong>&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;The other request &lbrack;my granddaughter made&rsqb; was that there be &OpenCurlyQuote;danger’ in the story&period; When I asked her why she was so fond of danger in stories&comma; she replied &OpenCurlyQuote;Because I like to see how people get out of it&period;’” – Doris Brett<&sol;strong><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>When writing&comma; Doris knew that the book had to be page-turning&comma; immersive and fun in order to engage a child’s interest&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Learning will only take place in a situation where the child’s attention is &OpenCurlyQuote;hooked’&period; That was a priority for me when writing Philomella&period; Only when the reader is truly absorbed in the story&comma; are they able to experience the challenges and problems encountered and &&num;8211&semi; in concert with the hero &&num;8211&semi; come to an emotional understanding&comma; and ability to discover and create solutions&period; It is why novels are such beautiful vehicles for communication about the complex condition of being human&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<figure id&equals;"attachment&lowbar;24121" aria-describedby&equals;"caption-attachment-24121" style&equals;"width&colon; 719px" class&equals;"wp-caption alignnone"><img class&equals;"wp-image-24121 size-full" src&equals;"http&colon;&sol;&sol;school-news&period;com&period;au&sol;wp-content&sol;uploads&sol;2023&sol;06&sol;Philomella&period;png" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"719" height&equals;"511" &sol;><figcaption id&equals;"caption-attachment-24121" class&equals;"wp-caption-text">Philomella and the Impossible Forest by Doris Brett&comma; image supplied<&sol;figcaption><&sol;figure>&NewLine;<h4><strong>Using books to talk about big issues<&sol;strong><&sol;h4>&NewLine;<p>When writing <em>Philomella and the Impossible Forest&comma;<&sol;em> Doris knew who her protagonist would be&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;an ordinary girl&comma; who finds herself way outside her comfort zone and is forced to discover the resources within herself”&period; Beyond that&comma; the story and characters were made up as she went along&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;I didn’t know anything in advance – I was constantly discovering where events led&comma; and what characters did as it happened&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>But just as all Doris’ writing has been inspired by her personal experience&comma; Philomella’s story was subconsciously infused with years of learning about the human condition&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;As a psychologist and a writer&comma; I am always drawn to discovering how experience shapes people and their growth&comma; and with the writing of <em>Philomella<&sol;em>&comma; that expressed itself so naturally that I hadn’t even realised I was doing it&comma;” she explains&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Some of the issues dealt with in <em>Philomella<&sol;em> include&colon; <&sol;p>&NewLine;<ul>&NewLine;<li>managing anger and rejection<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>facing your fears<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>adjusting to unwanted change<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>coping with failure<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>learning resilience and independence<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>the importance of looking beneath the surface&comma;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>and the importance of kindness and empathy&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<&sol;ul>&NewLine;<blockquote>&NewLine;<p><strong>&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Children often find it difficult to talk about emotional issues&period; They may be embarrassed or fear being misunderstood&comma; ridiculed or judged&period; They may be protecting others&comma; they may fear being seen as a snitch&comma; or not believed&period; However&comma; while uncomfortable talking about themselves&comma; they are perfectly happy to discuss a story featuring a hero with similar issues&period; Talking about feelings&comma; predicaments&comma; and responses through the lens of a fictional protagonist becomes a non-threatening way of working through their own issues&period;” Doris Brett<&sol;strong><&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>Doris recommends using books like <em>Philomella<&sol;em> to initiate discussion about tough subjects by following four steps&comma; starting by focussing on the characters to begin with&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><strong>Step 1&colon;<&sol;strong> Discuss the book in the same way that a book club would&comma; posing questions like &OpenCurlyQuote;why did the character react in this way and not that way’ and &OpenCurlyQuote;how do you think the hero felt&quest;’<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><strong>Step 2&colon;<&sol;strong> The next step is to direct the questions posed by the book towards the real world&comma; and ask students if they think people would really respond like that&comma; or if they know anyone who might have reacted like that&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;This is still far away enough from the child to be non-threatening”&comma; she says&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><strong>Step 3&colon;<&sol;strong> The next step is for the teacher or adult to bring themselves into the discussion&period; She explains&colon; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Saying that <em>you<&sol;em> have felt something&comma; makes it easier for the child to admit that they too have felt like that&period; They are more able to share their feelings because they sense that you will understand if you’ve &OpenCurlyQuote;been there&comma; done that’&period; This makes it less threatening for them&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><strong>Step 4&colon;<&sol;strong> the final step – when the child is ready – is to allow the child to talk about themselves&period; This step cannot be forced or rushed&comma; Doris warns&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;In the meantime&comma; talking about emotions and issues through the means of a fictional character is extremely therapeutic and the insight a child gains is just as beneficial as if you were talking directly about the child&period; They will take that insight back with them&comma; mull over it&comma; and make it their own&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Children also need heroes who model the values needed to thrive in the world&period; Unlike the digital realm where models and influencers lead seemingly effortless&comma; perfect lives&comma; Doris believes novels provide unlikely heroes&comma; underdogs who struggle&comma; fail&comma; and then learn to pick themselves up&period; Books model the old-fashioned virtues of grit&comma; determination and compassion&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;They also model hope&period; And this too is important for children&comma;” she adds&period; &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;They need to believe that difficulties can be managed&comma; that hard work is often necessary&comma; but brings rewards&comma; that redemption is possible and that failure can be valuable&period; For all of us&comma; whatever the tunnel we find ourselves in&comma; believing that there is a light at the end of it&comma; gives us the motivation to go on&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><em>Philomella and the Impossible Forest <&sol;em>by Doris Brett and published by Hardie Grant is available now&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;

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Shannon Meyerkort

Shannon Meyerkort is a freelance writer and the author of "Brilliant Minds: 30 Dyslexic Heroes Who Changed our World", now available in all good bookstores.

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