7 tips to help kids feeling anxious about going back to school

As COVID-19 lockdown measures are lifted, some children may experience social anxiety about the prospect of returning to school.

<p>People with <a title&equals;"Sub-types of safety behaviours and their effects on social anxiety disorder" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;journals&period;plos&period;org&sol;plosone&sol;article&quest;id&equals;10&period;1371&sol;journal&period;pone&period;0223165">social anxiety<&sol;a> may fear embarrassment or the expectation to perform in social situations&comma; or worry exceedingly about <a title&equals;"Exposure Therapy for Anxiety" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;books&period;google&period;com&period;au&sol;books&quest;hl&equals;en&amp&semi;lr&equals;&amp&semi;id&equals;YZ-BDwAAQBAJ">people judging you poorly<&sol;a>&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In certain situations&comma; people with <a title&equals;"Neuroanatomy&comma; Sympathetic Nervous System" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;ncbi&period;nlm&period;nih&period;gov&sol;books&sol;NBK542195&sol;">anxiety<&sol;a> may find their heart beats quicker as adrenalin is released into their blood stream&comma; more oxygen flows to the blood and brain&comma; and even digestion may slow down&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>These are helpful responses if you need to run away or fight danger&period; But social situations are generally not life threatening&comma; and these physical symptoms can interfere with socialising&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>People with social anxiety may fear looking silly&comma; being judged&comma; laughed at or being the focus of attention&period; For anyone&comma; such experiences might be unwelcome but for those with social anxiety they pose an <a title&equals;"Exposure Therapy for Anxiety" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;books&period;google&period;com&period;au&sol;books&quest;hl&equals;en&amp&semi;lr&equals;&amp&semi;id&equals;YZ-BDwAAQBAJ">unacceptable threat<&sol;a>&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h2>Social anxiety in Australian children<&sol;h2>&NewLine;<p>One Australian <a title&equals;"Child and Adolescence Mental Health and Educational Outcomes" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;education&period;gov&period;au&sol;news&sol;publication-child-and-adolescence-mental-health-and-educational-outcomes-report">report<&sol;a> found that about 6&period;9&percnt; of children and adolescents surveyed have a diagnosed anxiety disorder&comma; 4&period;3&percnt; experience separation anxiety and 2&period;3&percnt; a social phobia&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Social phobia &lpar;social anxiety&rpar; is more common in adolescents&comma; whereas separation anxiety &lpar;intense anxiety over leaving caregivers&comma; such as parents&rpar; is more prevalent in children&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>These figures only account for those who have a diagnosis of anxiety&period; They do not include undiagnosed young people who experience high stress in social situations&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<figure class&equals;"align-center zoomable"><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;1000&amp&semi;fit&equals;clip"><img src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;fit&equals;clip" sizes&equals;"&lpar;min-width&colon; 1466px&rpar; 754px&comma; &lpar;max-width&colon; 599px&rpar; 100vw&comma; &lpar;min-width&colon; 600px&rpar; 600px&comma; 237px" srcset&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;600&amp&semi;h&equals;389&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;1 600w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;30&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;600&amp&semi;h&equals;389&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;2 1200w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;15&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;600&amp&semi;h&equals;389&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;3 1800w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;45&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;h&equals;489&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;1 754w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;30&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;h&equals;489&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;2 1508w&comma; https&colon;&sol;&sol;images&period;theconversation&period;com&sol;files&sol;337492&sol;original&sol;file-20200526-106842-nlt5vi&period;jpg&quest;ixlib&equals;rb-1&period;1&period;0&amp&semi;q&equals;15&amp&semi;auto&equals;format&amp&semi;w&equals;754&amp&semi;h&equals;489&amp&semi;fit&equals;crop&amp&semi;dpr&equals;3 2262w" alt&equals;"" &sol;><&sol;a><figcaption><span class&equals;"caption">Not all children will be happy to be back in school&period;<&sol;span> <span class&equals;"attribution"><span class&equals;"source">Tom Wang&sol;Shutterstock<&sol;span><&sol;span><&sol;figcaption><&sol;figure>&NewLine;<p>Any recent prolonged absence from school may have increased social anxiety&comma; as avoiding what you fear can make <a title&equals;"Exposure Therapy for Anxiety" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;books&period;google&period;com&period;au&sol;books&quest;hl&equals;en&amp&semi;lr&equals;&amp&semi;id&equals;YZ-BDwAAQBAJ">your fear become greater<&sol;a>&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>This is because you do not get to learn that the thing you fear is actually safe&period; Your beliefs about the threat go unchallenged&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Anxiety can also increase through what pyschologists call reduced <a title&equals;"Exposure Therapy for Anxiety" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;books&period;google&period;com&period;au&sol;books&quest;hl&equals;en&amp&semi;lr&equals;&amp&semi;id&equals;YZ-BDwAAQBAJ">tolerance<&sol;a>&period; The more children withdraw from the situations that cause them fear&comma; the less tolerance they have for those situations&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h2>Anxiety can affect education<&sol;h2>&NewLine;<p>The educational cost for students with anxiety is considerable&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;youngmindsmatter&period;telethonkids&period;org&period;au&sol;NAPLAN">research<&sol;a> shows students with poor mental health can be between seven to 11 months behind in Year 3&comma; and 1&period;5 – 2&period;8 years behind by Year 9&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>That’s because these students experience more absences from school&comma; poorer connection to school&comma; lower levels of belonging and less engagement with schoolwork&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h2>7 strategies to help overcome social anxiety<&sol;h2>&NewLine;<p>So what can children do to overcome anxiety as they return to school&quest; Here are some useful tips&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<ol>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>deal with some of the physical symptoms&period; It is hard to think if your body is stressed&period; Use calming strategies like mindfulness or breathing exercises&period; <a title&equals;"How Breath-Control Can Change Your Life&colon; A Systematic Review on Psycho-Physiological Correlates of Slow Breathing" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;ncbi&period;nlm&period;nih&period;gov&sol;pmc&sol;articles&sol;PMC6137615&sol;">Slowing your breathing<&sol;a> can reduce symptoms of anxiety&comma; depression&comma; anger and confusion&period; Useful apps to help you control your breathing include <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;smilingmind&period;com&period;au&sol;smiling-mind-app">Smiling Mind<&sol;a> &lpar;iOS and Android&rpar; or <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;apkpure&period;com&sol;breathing-bubbles&sol;com&period;momentous&period;breathing">Breathing Bubbles<&sol;a> &lpar;Android only&rpar;&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>anxiety increases while using <a title&equals;"Sub-types of safety behaviours and their effects on social anxiety disorder" href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;journals&period;plos&period;org&sol;plosone&sol;article&quest;id&equals;10&period;1371&sol;journal&period;pone&period;0223165">avoidance techniques<&sol;a> such as avoiding eye contact&comma; not raising your hand to answer a question&comma; or not attending school&period; So the most effective way to deal with social anxiety might be to face it&period; Allow your child to have small experiences of social success – give their opinion to one person&comma; start a conversation with someone they know – so they can learn to feel safe in these social situations&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>fear and anxiety are normal and <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;psychologytoday&period;com&sol;us&sol;blog&sol;the-power-slow&sol;201307&sol;the-benefits-fear">benefit us<&sol;a> by helping us to respond efficiently to danger&period; Rather than read your body as under threat&comma; think about the changes as helpful&period; Your body is preparing you for action&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>while avoiding your fears is not the answer&comma; being fully exposed to them is not the answer either&period; Providing overwhelming social experiences may lead to overwhelming fear and failure&comma; and may make anxiety sufferers less likely to try again &&num;8211&semi; or at all&period; Start small and build their courage&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>supportive listening and counselling are less effective than facing your fears because these approaches can accommodate the fears&period; While you want to support your child by providing them with comfort and encouragement – ensure you also encourage them to face the fears that cause the anxiety&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>you cannot promise negative things won’t happen&period; It is possible you will be embarrassed or be judged&period; Rather than try to avoid these events&comma; try reframing them&period; Remember that that we all experience negative social feedback&comma; and this does not make you silly or of less value&period; It makes you normal&period; Or&comma; rather than see it as embarrassing&comma; maybe it can be funny&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>&NewLine;<p>remember it is the &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;perception” that something is a threat – not the reality&period; Reasoning with your child to help them see your perspective may not change theirs&period; This reality only changes with positive real experiences&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<&sol;ol>&NewLine;<figure><iframe src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;youtube&period;com&sol;embed&sol;gxxmV&lowbar;PwFOc&quest;wmode&equals;transparent&amp&semi;start&equals;0" width&equals;"440" height&equals;"260" frameborder&equals;"0" allowfullscreen&equals;"allowfullscreen"><&sol;iframe><figcaption><span class&equals;"caption">Breathing Bubbles in action&period;<&sol;span><&sol;figcaption><&sol;figure>&NewLine;<p>What we think is truth is often revealed as untrue when we face our fears&period; There is joy in social situations&period; Keep turning up to them&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h6><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;theconversation&period;com&sol;profiles&sol;mandie-shean-199959">Mandie Shean<&sol;a>&comma; Lecturer&comma; School of Education&comma; <em><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;theconversation&period;com&sol;institutions&sol;edith-cowan-university-720">Edith Cowan University&period;<&sol;a><&sol;em>This article is republished from <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;theconversation&period;com">The Conversation<&sol;a> under a Creative Commons license&period; Read the <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;theconversation&period;com&sol;7-tips-to-help-kids-feeling-anxious-about-going-back-to-school-139207">original article<&sol;a>&period;<&sol;h6>&NewLine;

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